Because first impressions last. :) Went out on a first date with MJ last night. You see, after Kyle, I refused to go on dates for a while. Trauma, perhaps, made me like boys but not exactly go out on a "just the two of us" date recently.
But last night, felt like the trauma's gone. My friends made me realize that if I keep pushing myself away from something I went through badly and not take a chance, it would be the end of a "would be" wonderful experience, and this date happens to be one of the good things.
Refresher: MJ is a friend of my high school best friend, Sharlyne. Actually, I don't date guys who are not recommended by friends or family because the nosy in me needs to get information on hand so I wouldnt be hooked into another asshole that I couldnt get back to if he did something bad. Yeah, I still feel cautious after eight heartbreaks.
So anyway, we hang out for coffee, talked for hours, insisted to drive me home, stopped over at Shang's place before dropping me home and there, date one over. Overview, I survived it.
Verdict: I'm not sure if there were feelings involved, but the date went well and felt good. Actually, he was the first guy I dated who I never got a bad conversation with. Well, he was teasing me all night for being petite and all but it was okay. Mayabang lang because he's 5'9. Hmmmp. Will there be a second date? Why not? He was the tarot card guy. He's settled, he's stable, he doesnt drink, nor smoke. He isnt hitched. He's a perfect gentleman, he has class, he's adventurous. The only problem was, he's kind of conyo, and he looks so chinese. Something in my head says he's the perfect guy to be the next boyfriend, but I don't know, I have to test the waters first.
Ive seen this at Tumblr and I guess this should be a guideline for, say, if it happens to do well. Hehehe. :)
1. Your friends approve- You’ll know he’s the right guy for you if your friends feel the same way. If your man hasn’t earned your friends’ stamp of approval, he might as well be waving a big red flag.
2. He gets along with your family- Introducing someone to your family can be awkward and tense— we can thank Ben Stiller for his excellent portrayal of all the worst-case scenarios. However, if he does mesh with the fam and becomes an instant member of your Dad’s “circle of trust,” then you’ll know he’s a keeper.
3. He listens to you- Communication is the foundation to any good relationship. If you’re trying to build a life with a guy who doesn’t think that what you have to say is important, your relationship will inevitably come crashing down. You need a man who truly listens to you.
4. You share the same values- You may say “tomay-to” while he says “tomah-to,” but there is no need to call the whole thing off. Just be certain that you both agree on what matters most in life. Finding a man who shares your ideals will make for a smooth ride.
5. He’s the type of person you would be friends with- You should have the same standards in your love life as you do socially. If you’re dating a guy who you would never be friends with, you might not be a good fit long-term.
6. You trust him- Without trust, your relationship is doomed to fail. If you can honestly say that you trust your man, you may have just found Mr. Right.
7. He makes you feel special- We all know that new-relationship high a little too well, but those feelings tend to dwindle as the days and months progress. If your man is still able to give you butterflies well into the relationship, then you’ve hit the jackpot.
8. He talks about the future- In your search for Mr. Right, you have to remember that he is also looking for a Mrs. Right. If your significant other verbalizes his thoughts on your future together, then it’s likely that he’s also considering you to be that special someone.
9. You feel secure- A man who is financially unfit may not be a good life partner. If your significant other can’t even take care of himself, how will he be able to take care of others? While we don’t recommend gold digging your way to your next boyfriend, we do think it’s important to feel secure in your relationship and in your financial future together.
10. He loves you for you- Surprisingly, this part has to come from you, not him. If you aren’t being true to yourself in a relationship, then he isn’t falling for the realyou. Although we all want to be seen as perfect, the facade will eventually crumble. Be yourself and if he still loves you, you know he’s here to stay.
So, goodluck MJ. Let's see if you're tailor-fit for this girl :P
But last night, felt like the trauma's gone. My friends made me realize that if I keep pushing myself away from something I went through badly and not take a chance, it would be the end of a "would be" wonderful experience, and this date happens to be one of the good things.
Refresher: MJ is a friend of my high school best friend, Sharlyne. Actually, I don't date guys who are not recommended by friends or family because the nosy in me needs to get information on hand so I wouldnt be hooked into another asshole that I couldnt get back to if he did something bad. Yeah, I still feel cautious after eight heartbreaks.
So anyway, we hang out for coffee, talked for hours, insisted to drive me home, stopped over at Shang's place before dropping me home and there, date one over. Overview, I survived it.
Verdict: I'm not sure if there were feelings involved, but the date went well and felt good. Actually, he was the first guy I dated who I never got a bad conversation with. Well, he was teasing me all night for being petite and all but it was okay. Mayabang lang because he's 5'9. Hmmmp. Will there be a second date? Why not? He was the tarot card guy. He's settled, he's stable, he doesnt drink, nor smoke. He isnt hitched. He's a perfect gentleman, he has class, he's adventurous. The only problem was, he's kind of conyo, and he looks so chinese. Something in my head says he's the perfect guy to be the next boyfriend, but I don't know, I have to test the waters first.
Ive seen this at Tumblr and I guess this should be a guideline for, say, if it happens to do well. Hehehe. :)
1. Your friends approve- You’ll know he’s the right guy for you if your friends feel the same way. If your man hasn’t earned your friends’ stamp of approval, he might as well be waving a big red flag.
2. He gets along with your family- Introducing someone to your family can be awkward and tense— we can thank Ben Stiller for his excellent portrayal of all the worst-case scenarios. However, if he does mesh with the fam and becomes an instant member of your Dad’s “circle of trust,” then you’ll know he’s a keeper.
3. He listens to you- Communication is the foundation to any good relationship. If you’re trying to build a life with a guy who doesn’t think that what you have to say is important, your relationship will inevitably come crashing down. You need a man who truly listens to you.
4. You share the same values- You may say “tomay-to” while he says “tomah-to,” but there is no need to call the whole thing off. Just be certain that you both agree on what matters most in life. Finding a man who shares your ideals will make for a smooth ride.
5. He’s the type of person you would be friends with- You should have the same standards in your love life as you do socially. If you’re dating a guy who you would never be friends with, you might not be a good fit long-term.
6. You trust him- Without trust, your relationship is doomed to fail. If you can honestly say that you trust your man, you may have just found Mr. Right.
7. He makes you feel special- We all know that new-relationship high a little too well, but those feelings tend to dwindle as the days and months progress. If your man is still able to give you butterflies well into the relationship, then you’ve hit the jackpot.
8. He talks about the future- In your search for Mr. Right, you have to remember that he is also looking for a Mrs. Right. If your significant other verbalizes his thoughts on your future together, then it’s likely that he’s also considering you to be that special someone.
9. You feel secure- A man who is financially unfit may not be a good life partner. If your significant other can’t even take care of himself, how will he be able to take care of others? While we don’t recommend gold digging your way to your next boyfriend, we do think it’s important to feel secure in your relationship and in your financial future together.
10. He loves you for you- Surprisingly, this part has to come from you, not him. If you aren’t being true to yourself in a relationship, then he isn’t falling for the realyou. Although we all want to be seen as perfect, the facade will eventually crumble. Be yourself and if he still loves you, you know he’s here to stay.
So, goodluck MJ. Let's see if you're tailor-fit for this girl :P
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